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Friday, June 30, 2023

Random facts: the history of charcoal briquettes

I know I've been doing random posts lately, but this is a REALLY random post! 

Since we're coming up on the 4th of July in the US, and it's officially summer grilling season, I thought I'd share the origin story of the charcoal briquette and the Kingsford charcoal company.

We were watching The Food That Built America on The History Channel  and they had an episode about BBQ, titled, Where There's Smoke and I thought it had an interesting bit of trivia that I didn't know. 



Henry Ford, of the Ford Motor Company, was making and selling over a million cars in the 1920's. Back then, cars were made of wood and used 100 feet of wood per car. 

Wanting more control of the process and to save money, he sought the help of Michigan real estate agent, and family friend, Edward G. Kingsford to find suitable land. 

Once up & running though, the mill generated a lot of waste. This bugged Ford so he decided to venture into making a new fangled thing, invented by a chemist named Orin Stafford, called charcoal briquettes (made from sawdust and mill waste and held together with cornstarch), with an eye towards marketing to families who were doing more things outdoors - thanks to being more mobile because of his cars. 

Ford, not knowing the first thing about how to build a factory to make charcoal briquettes, enlisted his good friend Thomas Edison, who helped design the factory to be built next to the sawmill, which was a model of efficiency, and let Kingsford run it. 

The company was named Ford Charcoal and only renamed it Kingsford Chemical Company in 1951, after Ford's death in 1947.

Ford sold what he called "picnic kits" containing the charcoal briquettes and a small portable grill for $1, exclusively at his dealerships and larger quantities to meat smoking plants. The home backyard grill wasn't invented yet, and grilling as we know it, didn't take off until after WWII.

I had no idea it was Henry Ford who brought charcoal to the mainstream or that Ford Charcoal was the original name for Kingsford. Nor did I realize Thomas Edison's involvement. Did you?

Do you all have any plans for the holiday? We have a new event in town. All day music and food by the waterfront. It's only 5 minutes away, so I think we're going to do that for the 4th. Otherwise it's just a chill weekend (or not - since it will be in the 90's) with the dogs at home.


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Don't shoot your eye out with fireworks and keep your pets inside! More pets go missing on the holiday than any other time of they year - they can get scared and disoriented from the firewrks. 

Monday, June 26, 2023

Read with Pride

To celebrate Pride month, I wanted to do a few book recommendations. I am horrible at remembering what I read last week - never mind over the years -and making lists -  but these have stood out out in my mind. I also wanted to pick less obvious or older titles as well.


YA

The Honey's by Ryan La Sala - I read this one a few months ago, and I still mention it almost weekly. Mars, who is genderfluid, throws himself back into the strict gender coded Aspen Conservancy Summer Academy, where he was once bullied out of, looking for answers after his sister dies under mysterious circumstances.  I adored how brilliantly La Sala weaved mystery, horror and coming of age into this delicious (pun intended if you've read it) tale.

You Should See Me in a Crown by Leah Johnson -  Liz is a Black, queer teen in an elite, mostly white school where she doesn’t ever quite fit. Watching her navigate the different groups and grow her self confidence is a real treat. This is the fluffy feel good summer read you need in your life right now!

Like a Love Story by Abdi Nazemian (review) I read this book back in 2019 and think about it to this day. Set in the late 80’s against the backdrop of the AIDS epidemic with the music of Madonna as a catalyst, Like a Love Story is the stunning coming of age story of three teens caught in a complicated relationship dynamic. Nazemian so brilliantly captures the era of the on coming AIDS crisis, the activism, fear, death, the LOVE, the intimacy, and the pop culture all at once without ever skipping a beat. It’s all done so seamlessly. Family, by birth and found, also feature prominently. It's a rough read, no neat little bows at the end and it's angsty but it's perfect. 

Pet by Akwaeke Emezi (review) (Pet is YA but it had more of a MG vibe to me, so  consider it a crossover and read my review for more details on why I feel this way) Pet is about things that look like monsters but might be angels and things that look like angels who might be monsters – and being brave enough to confront evil and speak up – even when it’s hard.

While the book is not specifically about sex or gender, Jam is a black transgender girl and has a lovely relationship with her parents, best friend and his family. 

MG

Ivy Aberdeen's letter to the World (review) This is such a lovely little story about 12 year old Ivy Aberdeen and the chaos and confusion she experiences after her baby sister is born, a tornado blows through her town and she starts having feelings for girls instead of the boys all her friends are talking about. 

I haven't read a lot of mid-grade, but the few that I have, have been wonderful - defying age classifications with universal themes. Ivy Aberdeen’s Letter to the World is one such book, tackling family dynamics, new and changing friendships and self discovery, making it perfect for readers young and old.

Adult

The Secret Life of Albert Entwistle by Matt Cain (reviewThe Secret Life of Albert Entwistle is a gentle little story that says it's never to late for new beginnings and family isn't something that needs to be connected by blood. Albert is a 65 year old forced to retire from his position, as a carrier, for the Royal Mail. Adrift and longing for a life never lived, he sets in motion a plan to let more people into his life - a plan that lets him finally reveal and be who he is (a gay man) and possibly lead him to his long lost love. This one is a little sad at first but a sweet story about small acts of kindness leading to bigger and better things.

Have you read any of these? What are your recommendations? If you did a post for Pride Month - please leave a link so I can visit.

Thursday, June 22, 2023

Review: Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng

 

Book cover for Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng, in smaller white font. A small, suburban neighborhood with neat lawns
In Shaker Heights, a placid, progressive suburb of Cleveland, everything is planned – from the layout of the winding roads, to the colors of the houses, to the successful lives its residents will go on to lead. And no one embodies this spirit more than Elena Richardson, whose guiding principle is playing by the rules.

Enter Mia Warren – an enigmatic artist and single mother – who arrives in this idyllic bubble with her teenaged daughter Pearl, and rents a house from the Richardsons. Soon Mia and Pearl become more than tenants: all four Richardson children are drawn to the mother-daughter pair. But Mia carries with her a mysterious past and a disregard for the status quo that threatens to upend this carefully ordered community.

When old family friends of the Richardsons attempt to adopt a Chinese-American baby, a custody battle erupts that dramatically divides the town--and puts Mia and Elena on opposing sides. Suspicious of Mia and her motives, Elena is determined to uncover the secrets in Mia's past. But her obsession will come at unexpected and devastating costs.

Little Fires Everywhere explores the weight of secrets, the nature of art and identity, and the ferocious pull of motherhood – and the danger of believing that following the rules can avert disaster. ~ Goodreads

Source: Audiobook via Hoopla

The Book Pusher: A Book A week blog 

Review: I rarely read best sellers/mainstream books but was finally convinced to try Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng thanks to Ethan's review. I went with the audiobook version, narrated by Jennifer Lim, which turned out to be a great choice.

Set in the 90's, during the Clinton administration, and Monica Lewinsky scandal, Ng writes a tale of two very different women. The affluent Elena Richardson -  wife to her lawyer husband, mother of 4, and journalist at her local paper, and Mia Warren - artist, waitress and single mother to 15 year old Pearl.

Their worlds collide when Mia moves to the idyllic, progressive community of Shaker Heights, Ohio. She rents a duplex from Mrs. Richardson, hoping to have finally found a place to settle with Pearl, after a somewhat nomadic upbringing. 

Little Fires Everywhere, primarily, through Elena and Mia, looks at progressive ideals, how they change and warp the wealthier one becomes, the "seeming" perfection of suburbia, social class, the impulsiveness of youth, and above all motherhood. 

Right from the start the two families become intertwined and headed for disaster. Pearl, raised unmoored from a sense of place, gravitates to the Richardsons. She becomes best friend to Moody, pines for eldest son, Trip, becomes confidants to daughters Lexie and Izzy. Pearl spends every day with the family and is enamored by the picture perfect, welcoming Mrs. Richardson as opposed to her free spirit mother. 

The Richardson's fall under the spell of the Warrens as well. Moody has a crush on Pearl, Trip starts to show an interest, and Izzy, never feeling like she belonged in the Richardson's family, thrives under Mia's tutelage and helps with her art projects after school every day.

Then a local explosive custody case, involving a Chinese-American baby, rocks Shaker Heights to its core. Mia is a friend and co-worker to the poor, immigrant birth mother fighting to get her baby back, after leaving her at a fire station, while Elena is best friends to the potential adoptive family and her husband is their lawyer.  

Ng creates and intensely voyeuristic experience.  With expertise, she weaves the stories of all the players, past and present, so seamlessly that you just get swept up into it. Instead of getting annoyed that the story is veering (seemingly) off course for a time - you appreciate the intricate layer this new information adds to the story. 

I mentioned earlier that this book is, above all, about motherhood and this custody case sets things in motion that neither woman can undo. Elena becomes more and more suspicious of Mia's past and uses her journalist skills and contacts to dig up the dirt. She calls in favors from people she calls friend - clear that every good deed she has done for them over the years was catalogued and expected to be reciprocal. It becomes personal and she crosses lines. She also loses sight of her own children's needs and actions. 

Mia, while coming from a better, more altruistic place, is still, none-the-less keeping secrets and has moral quandaries she struggles with both in her past and with her relationship to the Richardson children.

Ng explores subjects and scenarios that might not raise as many eyebrows these days. I recall in the 90's that test tube babies, surrogacy custody battles and adoptions where children being ripped away from their adoptive parents - live on tv were HUGE, polarizing stories. And big ratings grabbers. Ng expertly captures that time and place.

She also doesn't justify or judge her characters actions. She just lays out their complex stories, their history and motivations then leaves it to the reader to decide. I can see how this would make for an amazing book club book. I can easily think of a dozen topics off the top of my head to discuss. I haven't even touched the surface of what the book entails in this review.

The ending though...I was so thrown by the ending. It was abrupt - although I knew it was coming. It was wrapped up yet not. I'm not sure if I struggle with the way it was written or that I wanted to stay with these people longer and know where they are now, how they are handling this next chapter. Either way - it's not often that a book gets to me that way so I'll take it as a win. 

I do want to mention a few CW. These are mostly if pregnancy/motherhood issues are a trigger for you ---> infertility, surrogacy, adoption, miscarriage, abortion, women who change their mind about surrogacy/adoption, kidnapping, child abandonment, death of sibling

Tuesday, June 20, 2023

Tell Me Something Tuesday: Reading slumps

Tell Me Something Tuesday is a weekly discussion post where bloggers discuss a wide range of topics from books and blogging to life in general. 

It is co-hosted by (Linda from Book Girl of Mur-y-Castell, Roberta from Offbeat YA, Jen from That’s What I’m Talking About, Berl's from Because Reading is Better than Real Life  and me) 

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Question: How do you get out of reading slumps?

Answer: In my 13 years of blogging, I have tried all the methods to get over reading slumps.

Re-reading old favorites

Try a new genre

Read novellas/shorter stories

Set a schedule/read a certain number of pages per day

Read in a different format

Take short breaks from reading

Really, reading slumps only started for me after I started review reading/blogging. It changed my relationship to reading and made it feel like a job and caused more slumps. Add to that, I'm a mood reader, and the reading schedules just broke me. 

Those are all the answers for what I used to do. And they didn't work. Now? I take the message my brain is trying to tell me and...don't read. 

I say this as someone who no longer takes books for review (or very, very few) so I don't have obligations to read or review. I understand this isn't an option for those who do or want to keep a regular blogging schedule. Because, clearly, my blog is suffering due to my lack of reading lol But I'm happier with my reading so it's all good. 



What do you do to get over reading slumps?


Tuesday, June 13, 2023

Tell Me Something Tuesday: Plot, characters, story - what's more important to you when reading?

Tell Me Something Tuesday is a weekly discussion post where bloggers discuss a wide range of topics from books and blogging to life in general. 

It is co-hosted by (Linda from Book Girl of Mur-y-Castell, Roberta from Offbeat YA, Jen from That’s What I’m Talking About, Berl's from Because Reading is Better than Real Life  and me) 

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Question: What's most important in a book for you: the plot, the characters, or the writing style?

Answer: This is kind of an interesting one for me to answer.

In general, I would say characters. If I don't connect to one, it's all over for me. I just stop caring and glaze over while I'm reading. The plot, while important, is secondary if I love a character(s). I'll follow, even a crap story, to find out what happens to them lol

Now...since I've been reading more in audiobook format, I would say the plot is more important.  When I *hear* the story, it feels more immersive and conversational so I almost automatically feel closer to the characters (whether I like them or not. In fact, I can tolerate deeply flawed characters more with audio) but if the plot isn't going anywhere, I tend to drift off and miss whole chapters. 

It's important for me, with audiobooks, for them to be moving forward in a way that doesn't bother me as much in print. Probably because characters are more important to me in that format. Weird...I know lol

Writing style...TBH, I don't notice it much. Like POV -1st person, 3rd person etc - for example, I'm not even aware unless I stop to think about it. I'm either engrossed in a story or I'm not. I'm sure it matters to me on some level, but it's not something I'm conscious of unless it's overly pretentious.


WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU? PLOT, CHARACTERS, WRITING STYLE?



Friday, June 9, 2023

Ending the week with a moment of zen...

I had a garden blooms post planned...or maybe a book round up because I'm listening to a ridiculous 3 audiobooks at once right now lol But after a week of highs and lows - I decided to end on a tranquil note with these pictures that make me sigh with relaxation...

These are a gaggle (the name for a group of geese) of geese headed into the water at the park. I counted at least 25 fluffy goslings with three distinct family groups. This is my favorite time of year to walk in this particular park (a 3 mile walk around a lake) and it didn't disappoint. 


This is a little hummingbird that was visiting the hanging baskets on my deck. He/she gets very frustrated when I'm sitting outside lol and this is the first time I was even able to get any sort of picture of it. It's not the greatest pic but I love how it's just floating with the sky behind them. (it's the little blob to the right - almost center - between the hanging basket and deck planter)


And this is a picture from a trail at a college campus that we take the dogs walking on. The weather was perfect - cool with sun peaking out between the trees and birds tweeting. SO relaxing! I always feel like walking in the woods out here is like stepping back in time.




I hope you all had a great week and have a relaxing/fun weekend! 💕

Thursday, June 8, 2023

How to Be Fine: What We Learned Living by the Rules of 50 Self-Help Books by Jolenta Greenberg , Kristen Meinzer

A humorous and insightful look into what advice works, what doesn’t, and what it means to transform yourself, by the co-hosts of the popular By the Book podcast.


In each episode of their podcast By the Book, Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer take a deep dive into a different self-help book, following its specific instructions, rules, and advice to the letter. From diet and productivity to decorating to social interactions, they try it all, record themselves along the way, then share what they’ve learned with their devoted and growing audience of fans who tune in.

Before they began their podcast, Jolenta wanted to believe the promises of self-help books, while Kristen was very much the skeptic. They embraced their differences of opinion, hoping they’d be good for laughs and downloads. But in the years since launching the By the Book, they’ve come to realize their show is about much more than humor. In fact, reading and following each book’s advice has actually changed and improved their lives. Thanks to the show, Kristen penned the Amish romance novel she’d always joked about writing, traveled back to her past lives, and she broached some difficult conversations with her husband about their marriage. Jolenta finally memorized her husband’s phone number, began tracking her finances, and fell in love with cutting clutter.

In How to Be Fine, Jolenta and Kristen synthesize the lessons and insights they’ve learned and share their experiences with everyone. How to Be Fine is a thoughtful look at the books and practices that have worked, real talk on those that didn’t, and a list of philosophies they want to see explored in-depth. The topics they cover include:

Getting off your device
Engaging in positive self-talk
Downsizing
Admitting you’re a liar
Meditation
Going outside
Getting in touch with your emotions
Seeing a therapist

Part memoir, part prescriptive handbook, this honest, funny, and heartfelt guide is like a warm soul-baring conversation with your closest and smartest friends.from Living 

Source: Library Audiobook via Hoopla

The Bookpusher: Lauren from Shooting Stars blog after seeing her Instagram post about the book.

Review: Jolenta Greenberg and Kristen Meinzer host the By the Book (& now the How to Be Fine) podcasts where they follow a self help book for 2 weeks then break it down and discussing the pros and cons of each book.

Personally, I am not a fan of self-help books. I find most authors make too many promises like - THIS IS THE ONE BOOK TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE. If that were the case there would not be approximately 1 bajillion diets and self-help books. And most authors, if successful, end up making a franchise out of whatever slogan they're selling. Which again, to me, if it works so well why am I still spending more money to make it work? It is a multi-million dollar industry after all. If you don't have a problem - they don't make $$. 

Having said that, I have been reading more about my anxiety and have found several books, podcasts and youtuber's that have been an enormous help. I also believe that what doesn't/does work for me might not be the same for someone else. So, I was really curious to read about two women who were going into this endeavor open minded and from differing backgrounds.

How to Be Fine is broken down into three sections:

Part 1: Thirteen Things That Worked (acts of kindness, positive self talk, get off your device...)

Part 2:Eight Things That Didn't Work: (meditation, wake up early, forgive...)

Part 3: Eight Things We Wish Were More Books Included (stop comparing yourself to others, do things in chunks, make friends with your body...)

Overall, I enjoyed this book. The authors have a nice casual, talking with friends vibe. They were (very) open with their personal stories to show how the different advice either did or didn't work for them. Each subject ends with a letter from a listener disagreeing with or questioning their outcome to which they address. Basically, their response was always - you do you Boo 😜 They were never pushy about anything - this was just their experience. 

For example, things that required self pampering alone time were horrible for extroverted Kristen - who derives restoration and energy from spending a lot of time with people. While Jolenta, an introvert, reveled in self care. 

It was funny because Jolenta is more of the "believer" going in and, honestly, got the most out of the advice from what I can tell, but ended up more skeptical of self-help books, overall. 

They bounce around the different books (& their POV'S) and I found that to be a bit of a bummer. There was kind of shorthand in discussing some of the books as if the reader has read or knows the rules of them all. I haven't read any of them so I didn't always understand the basic premise of the books they were discussing - even though I'm aware of several like - Men are from Mars, Women are From Venus, Marie Kondo, Rachel Hollis. They do dig deeper into some more than others. 

It's a nice way to learn about the various books and authors though if you wanted to read them later. 

What I didn't love as much was Part 3 where they discuss what they wish self-help books did include. I absolutely agreed with each of their points but this is where they let loose the most and spent more time slamming books/methods or basically giving their own self-help advice. Again, there was not one thing I didn't agree with them on but this section felt more like a rant.

I did like how they acknowledge that most self-help books are about gaining more *things*, are targeted at people who mostly are doing ok but are still unhappy, and don't take into account the real bias's or disabilities. And as sexual abuse survivors - they call out how so many of the books want you to forgive and take on the blame for any of the bad things in your life as a way to move forward but I agree - a lot of these books don't take into account real trauma.
 
The book is very short (I think about 200 pages in paperback?) - I listened to it in just a few hours so it's fun for it's intended purpose. It would probably mean more if you read self-help books but it did help me to find their podcast, which I love!

Good for fans of self-help books or those who aren't but are still curious about some of them really do have any value.