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Sunday, March 31, 2013

Book Blogger Confessions: Juggling blogging and real life.

 

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Question: How does blogging effect your *real* life? Are friends and family supportive? Do you find that blogging cuts into family time? How do you strike a balance between the two?

It consumes my real life. Or at least it did. I spent way too many hours on my blog and not participating in real life for the past few years. As soon as I woke up I would start going through posts and commenting for an hour while I ate breakfast, do errands/work, then come home write reviews & format (the real time drainer!) posts and then do another round of commenting & tweeting. Then after dinner I would squeeze in reading.

I went through a horrible reading/blogging slump last year where I forced myself to take time off. It was really hard to step away from the computer but I realized that I stopped participating in any non blogging/reading hobbies for almost two years. I wasn’t watching TV, going to movies or gardening – which I loved even more than reading at one time. I didn’t have time damn it! Had to get that book read, that post written, comment so I wouldn't’ lose all my friends…. It was a big wake up call to me and made me jump off the blogging merry-go-round. I’m much more laid back about it now and manage both real life and blogging quite easily. I even planted a flower garden already this year.

As for family and friends being supportive – my husband is not only supportive but he’s an enabler! He’s happy that I found something I enjoy doing so much and is always finding places to buy autographed books, sales, signings etc. He has my plane & hotel tickets for next years BEA pretty much a week after I get home from the current one. AND he loves going to BEA and bookish events. It brings out the hunter/gatherer in him. I tell him the books/authors I like and off he goes lol He also helps with html code, and sometimes edits my reviews for me. He’s awesome.

I try not to tell anyone else about my blog. A few people know but I didn’t tell them. (The aforementioned awesome hubby outed me) I feel like it’s my own little space and it makes me self conscious to know my friends and family are reading it. Especially with some of the books I read O_O

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22 comments:

  1. Wow, your hubby sounds so awesome. I am keeping my blog a secret as well. To stay safe online, mostly, but also because I feel like it's just for ME.

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  2. +JMJ+

    Your husband sounds amazingly supportive! =D

    I have never kept my blogging a secret. In the past, I even invited friends and family to read it; but these days, I just mention that I blog as a hobby and don't offer the URL unless someone asks for it. I guess the fact that very few of the people I invited cared to visit tempered my enthusiasm. =P

    The first answer which came to mind when I read your question was that some people will explicitly say to me, "Don't blog this, okay?" when confiding something to me. Apparently, I've shared details which I hadn't known were intimate on my blog before! I never outed people's identities when I did so, and I usually shared the stories by saying, "This reminds me of the time a friend told me . . ." But I guess people--even those with their own blogs--were a little put off by the ease with which I wove my private life and online life together. It reminds me (Oh, here I go again! LOL!) of a relatively well-known blogger who gives a lot of dating advice saying that her daughter has trouble finding dates because the boys are afraid they will be written about on the blog! LOL! The blogger has assured her daughter that she will never write about the daughter's private life, but the boys are still dubious!

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  3. Wow - it sounds like we both have impeccable taste in hubbies ;D. Mine can't read English (only understands the odd word here and there), but I manage to keep him updated with my reads and stuff, and he has never told me I'm a hopeless ex-teenager-unable-to-let-go so far LOL.
    I can see how addictive blogging and all the related activities are. I'm glad you managed to find a balance. As a budding blogger, I haven't undergone a stage like that yet...and I'm doing my best not to. But it's not that easy.

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  4. So glad that you have an enabler and glad that he supports your hobby and going to all things bookish. Yes it can addictive and not fun at times. Love you

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  5. I'm glad you had an epiphany and have found a balance.

    My husband loves my hobby too. He's always encouraging me to go to "my happy place" i.e. Bloglandia.

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  6. Oh my goodness you have an enabler! That must be so awesome! Mine just makes me feel guilty every time I pick up a book or get on the computer. Plus he accuses me of being in love with all the fictional guys and therefore not loving him. *sigh* So not true. But then I have swapped hobbies many times and no matter which hobby I am currently loving he is not a big fan of. So I just do my best to ignore him. But I really can't be too harsh on him either. I do tend to go overboard when I get focused. I let everything else go. It is ugly. Balance is something I really struggle at. I would love a hubby that supported me attending book stuff so I could actually meet the people I mix with on the internet. But alas just the mention of going to some book event causes him to go on the defensive.

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    1. That is hard if you don't have support for your hobbies.

      This is the first one I've gotten crazy over (although I spent SO much money on gardening!)

      I *may* have forgotten to pay bills and clean the house because of blogging on occasion lol I'm trying to stop that level of obsession though.

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  7. What else can I say then YES ;)

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  8. Your hubby is AMAZING! My boyfriend is not a huge fan of going to bookish events. Especially since I mostly read YA, haha tons of screaming teenage girls is not in his list of favorite things. He does enable me as well though! He going through things on the blog and tells me what should be changed lol. I'm trying to convince him for BEA next year ;)

    Your old routine sounds like my current one :S

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    1. Mine is freakishly organized so he has a group of us that goes to him for instructions at BEA lol He's like our fearless leader!

      More men having been going to BEA each year. The lines can be too much on them sometimes but overall they enjoy it.

      Oddly enough Kevin (my hubby) is more patient with lines than I am. I'm like it's not worth it but he'll wait for an hour.

      I reward him with lots of delicious NYC food!

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  9. That's pretty funny, but I keep my blog pretty private too. It's not like I hide it, but I definitely don't really announce it. I think a big part of it is exactly like you said. It's my own private space in a way.

    I really need to make some time for other hobbies besides reading/blogging. My friend and I are trying to work out more now that Spring has arrived, so that will at least get me out of the house.

    Kevin is SO awesome! Can he train my husband? I take my husband to motorcycle shows, maybe BEA can be payback. I know he would hate it though. Edits for you too? I'm jealous!

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  10. Awww...your hubby sounds like a real keeper:) I keep my blog pretty private too...I don't think anyone IRL really cares enough to visit it anyway...I'm alone in my bookish nerdiness so thank goodness for all of you!

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  11. This is a very timely post for me! I have been SO busy in real life the past few weeks that I literally have had no time to blog. Sometimes with balance comes knowing what the priorities are.I have finally been able to catch up today!! It feels so good to get the deadlines crossed off my list!

    I love that your hubby is so involved in your blogging! My boyfriend is definitely supportive and never gives so much as an eye roll when it comes to reading, books, or blogging. I think he would enjoy BEA too!! He always asks me when it is, but so far we haven't been able to get away to do it!

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  12. Hi, I just came across your blog today. I'm a new subscriber. :)

    That's great that your husband is so supportive! Mine is too and is willing to help me figure out coding issues. Right now I am debating on trying to have him and I create a new template/blog design or if I am going to buy a design. So many thoughts go into that alone.

    I am the same way about broadcasting my blog--the space is for me so I do not tell my friends and other librarians about it. I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels this way.

    Happy Reading! :)

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    1. Thanks for following!

      It's strange but I only want to talk to you guys about reading lol It's my little escape from reality.

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