Sunday, September 30, 2012
Book Blogger Confessions: Blogger envy
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Blogger Envy: Do you have a bad case of blogger envy? Do you covet thy neighbor bloggers book hauls/follower numbers/blog design? How do you tamp down the green eyed monster?
I suppose in my early days of blogging there was some envy over ARC’s, but I’ve long since let that go.
Ahhh the good old book haul jealousy. After my first year going to BEA I realized the downside of getting all those books. You. Can’t. Read. Them. All. My reaction now for bloggers with huge ass book hauls is YAY I’m so happy for you and all the books you’ve received, because truly I’m happy when people get books, but then my next reaction is….good luck with that.
I’ve seen so many bloggers that start out thrilled with all their new shiny books only to be overwhelmed and crash into that reading slump wall (points to self), or in a complete panic trying to read and review them all on time (that would be me). Some bloggers even burn out on blogging because of it so no…that’s not something I envy anymore.
Don’t get me wrong, I do get a few ARC’s and I'm not gonna lie, I love them but I used to live in a world where I didn’t know ARC’s existed and I waited for a book to come out at the bookstore ON RELEASE DAY *gasp* It’s cool, I can do that again. I won’t die if I don’t read a book 3 months earlier than everyone else.
I’m grateful for every opportunity I’ve been given as a book blogger but they are just that – opportunities. Icing on the cake if you will. I’m happy, not envious, of anyone else who gets them.
As for stats, I don’t read mine very often so it stands to reason that I’m not really looking at yours in comparison. I’m not a particularly competitive person and I’ve found that when I *try* to blog a certain way or to achieve a certain stat - I fail. I’m not saying that it’s wrong to do that - not at all – but just that it doesn’t work for me.
Here’s the one thing that I am green with envy over. Anyone who can write a beautiful review for a book I love, because I just can’t. I become a blathering idiot. I spend weeks trying to write the perfect review to express all that I loved about a book, fail miserably, then go on Goodreads or a friends blog and see that they’ve managed to put all my feelings into words. I HATE it and I’m jealous of it.
I think it’s human nature to be jealous so there’s nothing wrong with it. I don’t even think it can be stopped entirely, but I try to put the feeling to better use. Jealousy is too draining and unproductive for me so I try to use it as a chance to look at why I’m jealous in the first place. Can I take something away from it that will help me improve my blog? Maybe it’s the bloggers attitude that bugs me – if so I’ll just stay away from it then.
In my experience bloggers love to share. Books, ideas, frustrations, a shoulder to cry on, so there is no reason to compete or be jealous.
Question for October 15th: Happy (early) Halloween! Do you like to read scary books? Why or why not? If so, what is the scariest book you ever read and why does it deserve that honor?
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