tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post2070129962396495379..comments2024-03-28T12:11:42.691-04:00Comments on For What It's Worth: My Monday MusingsKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comBlogger33125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-3353149072000310592019-06-02T19:15:39.005-04:002019-06-02T19:15:39.005-04:00I think YA books might point out flaws a parent wa...I think YA books might point out flaws a parent was unaware of, but I've never really thought about it before! Reading a lot of YA books offers a unique perspective, and a wide variety of circumstances and situations, so I believe it's possible for books to influence parents. Likely in a positive way, too.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.doyoudog-ear.com/" rel="nofollow">Lindsi @ Do You Dog-ear? </a>Lindsi https://www.blogger.com/profile/13480991226741687503noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-20324025698446195902019-06-02T16:39:16.850-04:002019-06-02T16:39:16.850-04:00Okay, so I am not a mother :P So I know this quest...Okay, so I am not a mother :P So I know this question is not directed toward me. But I am very much looking forward to being a mother some day, and I spend a lot of time working with kids at the moment as a teaching assitant at a primary school and also an au pair. I think YA and middle grade definitely has helped me when it comes to how to talk to and treat kids...Olivia's Catastrophehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12706765857201768908noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-27624623919051722582019-05-29T02:45:22.424-04:002019-05-29T02:45:22.424-04:00I'm sorry about that. ((((HUGS))))I'm sorry about that. ((((HUGS))))La La in the Libraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18253014225202985934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-13298510294128963782019-05-26T15:34:18.133-04:002019-05-26T15:34:18.133-04:00This is what I was hoping! I sometimes see myself ...This is what I was hoping! I sometimes see myself (in an unflattering way) when I'm reading and think...do I sound like that?? I better knock it off lol So I always hope parent scan see how their words and actions can hurt their kids. Or at least see what kids are facing things these days. It's always a little different than past generations.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-74699830268144784482019-05-26T15:32:26.280-04:002019-05-26T15:32:26.280-04:00I was VERY wild! lol Well with drinking and drugs....I was VERY wild! lol Well with drinking and drugs. I stopped everything before I was legal though and I don't do anything now. Not because of an addiction or recovery or anything like that but I guess I got it all out of my system and like to be in control now. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-29132313733738851412019-05-26T10:42:26.525-04:002019-05-26T10:42:26.525-04:00As a mom of teenagers, I have OFTEN felt like YA b...As a mom of teenagers, I have OFTEN felt like YA books help me empathize and connect to my kids better. Don't get me wrong, I still make tons of mistakes, but I can often see myself in the parents in books (both the good and bad aspects) and it makes me think about my parenting through that lens. Plus, reading has made me more empathetic in general, which translates to better parenting (I hope!). <br /><br />What a great discussion topic!<br /><br />Nicole @ <a href="http://feedyourfictionaddiction.com" rel="nofollow">Feed Your Fiction Addiction</a>Nicole @ Feed Your Fiction Addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08637114079800138680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-38811366429061851912019-05-24T15:58:49.679-04:002019-05-24T15:58:49.679-04:00Just popping in to say I loved this discussion, th...Just popping in to say I loved this discussion, though I'm not a parent (then again, neither are you). And I loved to get to know some of my bookish friends better by reading their answers. So you had a wild phase? I would never have imagined!Roberta R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/18228840429799100354noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-47089999741002432372019-05-23T14:41:33.925-04:002019-05-23T14:41:33.925-04:00I have a few friends who never got into trouble as...I have a few friends who never got into trouble as a teen and they just can't fathom when their kid does lolKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-59841091353336109302019-05-22T14:24:23.106-04:002019-05-22T14:24:23.106-04:00I don't read a lot of contemporary YA so I hon...I don't read a lot of contemporary YA so I honestly have no clue whether it would impact on me or my parenting style.<br />I just like to remind myself of the stupid shit I did when I was younger whenever I'm tempted to be overly harsh on the kid. He's so like me in personality that it's easy to emphasise when I stop to think about the whys...Niccihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12122972546470154598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-90312400659177008972019-05-22T13:57:29.504-04:002019-05-22T13:57:29.504-04:00It's a scary time to be a teen!It's a scary time to be a teen!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-41485768367571625002019-05-22T02:41:51.062-04:002019-05-22T02:41:51.062-04:00I do see things differently now when I have a kid....I do see things differently now when I have a kid. I just people to be safe! Also gods, ya book parents suck! I want to read books with at least normal parentsBlodeueddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03435479623560871881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-5775318057611209312019-05-21T13:55:46.418-04:002019-05-21T13:55:46.418-04:00I think there are so many bad examples (sadly) in ...I think there are so many bad examples (sadly) in YA and I think I would read it and go whoa....I hope I don't do that! lol<br /><br />I even find in adult romance that I learn relationship do's and don'ts so why not YA for parents. <br /><br />I think it can be used as a prompt - like you did - to open discussion. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-85398750077836559752019-05-21T13:53:04.454-04:002019-05-21T13:53:04.454-04:00Exactly. i think it can be one more tool in the pa...Exactly. i think it can be one more tool in the parents toolbox. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-70294918535602705472019-05-21T13:52:05.291-04:002019-05-21T13:52:05.291-04:00I agree. I've been introduced to so many topic...I agree. I've been introduced to so many topics through reading and it's changed how I look at things and helps me empathize with people. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-34271086592562425292019-05-20T19:59:41.829-04:002019-05-20T19:59:41.829-04:00I started reading my daughter's books as anoth...I started reading my daughter's books as another way to connect with her, but I do think you can gain some insight. For the most part, they prompted me to ask my daughter questions about her being biracial and growing up without a father, which I seem to read about a lot in the my YA books. I was happy when she told me she didn't encounter the issues that the characters in the book did. Samantha@WLABBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11589486165371852904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-4143534001762894392019-05-20T19:28:45.363-04:002019-05-20T19:28:45.363-04:00Well, it couldn't hurt and reading usually bro...Well, it couldn't hurt and reading usually broadens thinking so why not? Nothing says a parent, or a teen for that matter, is reduced to just one tool to build with- why not fiction stories about teens and parents?<br /><br />Great discussion, Karen!Sophia Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07909417504496472472noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-14717739891089242832019-05-20T18:57:33.617-04:002019-05-20T18:57:33.617-04:00I'm not a parent, but I think more parents SHO...I'm not a parent, but I think more parents SHOULD read YA books if they have kids about to be teens, or who are teens, because it can show you insight into a teen's mind. I think it can also show you ways to parent better. I know that reading books has definitely made me more empathetic and taught me a lot about myself and the world around me, so I think it would make sense that it would do the same if I have kids.<br /><br />-Lauren<br />www.shootingstarsmag.netShooting Stars Maghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16074581473656321052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-79666314499094992532019-05-20T18:02:42.570-04:002019-05-20T18:02:42.570-04:00My mom was like that. She was very open about thin...My mom was like that. She was very open about things and I felt like i could ask her anything or go to her if I was in trouble. I wouldn't say I was an angel - but I rarely made bad choices because of it. <br /><br />But she passed away when I was 15 and my dad was a whole other story. He was very distant and I was on my own a lot and got into a lot of trouble - drinking & drugs. Probably to get a reaction.<br /><br />It's so funny, but when he was old - he would tell anyone who would listen what a perfect teen I was - never got into any trouble lol And he knew what I was up to. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-85625874019245042522019-05-20T17:51:16.745-04:002019-05-20T17:51:16.745-04:00My ex and I got a lot of grief from family for rai...My ex and I got a lot of grief from family for raising my son more like a best friend than dominate parent over child, but he has turned out the most well-adjusted and academically successful of all the grandchildren on both sides of the family, and he has worked part-time during school semesters and full-time during summer and winter breaks. Sure, every once and a while he would get lippy with us if he thought something was unfair (like you would with a friend), but he always told us everything that was going on with him and wasn't afraid to ask questions, or ask for help. I thank gawd that we didn't have to go through the teen defiance phase because I was a single parent by then, and it was hard enough dealing with everything else. Ha ha. After I got on social media I started seeing that meme that says, "Be the parent you wished you had as a child," and I really think that is the essence of good parenting. 😊La La in the Libraryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18253014225202985934noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-51798672465036758452019-05-20T16:38:16.773-04:002019-05-20T16:38:16.773-04:00Yes! I wonder if reading YA - and I'm talking ...Yes! I wonder if reading YA - and I'm talking more about bloggers who consume a large volume of YA - not the causal YA reader - exposes them to teen anxieties more, or LGBQT content, so it's not as foreign a concept. And maybe they see examples of what not to do or how to handle it better.<br /><br />But then - they could also relate to the parents more. Because once you have to take care of and be responsible for this other life, your perspective changes. It's one thing to know that teens will try drugs, drinking etc but you now you fear for their future and safety. Like you said, you aren't friends. <br /><br />Have you read Sweetie yet? So in that example - she shames Sweetie for being fat a lot - and I wonder if a parent reading that would be like...OMG is that what I'M doing?? I need to learn how to talk to her without hurting her like that. Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-90370791527571662972019-05-20T16:31:54.874-04:002019-05-20T16:31:54.874-04:00I don't envy parents at all! I'm a wreck a...I don't envy parents at all! I'm a wreck about my pets and I can control everything lolKarenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-81241172815572228842019-05-20T16:31:03.258-04:002019-05-20T16:31:03.258-04:00I just wonder if you might catch yourself saying t...I just wonder if you might catch yourself saying things and acting like a bad YA parent or, as an adult & parent, do you relate more to the parent in the book?? <br /><br /><br />Both books are great though!Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13958940283330319507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-22491696084537796242019-05-20T16:28:15.325-04:002019-05-20T16:28:15.325-04:00I think it probably would but it would depend on t...I think it probably would but it would depend on the parent as well. Some parents tend to forget that being a teen doesn't mean life is easy because you don't have to pay bills or a mortgage. So many tens are struggling with their sense of self, their own beliefs and sexuality, their personality and what type of adult they will become. Teens need to make their own mistakes, non harmful of course but they need to experience life without feeling sheltered. Then again, parents need to be parents and not try to be their teens friend. Diva Booknerdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17808412083567644984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-82765351890493691492019-05-20T16:15:32.457-04:002019-05-20T16:15:32.457-04:00I wonder if it will help when my kids are teens. I...I wonder if it will help when my kids are teens. I hope so. God I am scared for that to happen!Grace @ RebelMommyBookBloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10129217535499024513noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7047843651411739466.post-61204354886030056902019-05-20T16:09:55.869-04:002019-05-20T16:09:55.869-04:00I'm not sure reading YA would make a better pa...I'm not sure reading YA would make a better parent, but then again it might be a reminder to what you went through at that age. I so need to read those books. You have me curious even though I'm sure it would break my heart too.Melissa (Books and Things)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00074452958853212024noreply@blogger.com